The truth is that living in a place where my father abused my mother both physically and psychologically turned me into hard woman. I didn’t want anyone to hit me, didn’t want anyone to tell me what to do with my money, nor with my life, nor what kind of clothes I should wear or whatever. To do something because someone else is my boss. I belief that right now I have a companion, I don’t feel like his slave, he doesn't feel like my slave. But it tookme many years. The history of my mother left a big mark on me. My childhood was filled with loss, pain, with violence, with abuse. When I was just a child a brother of my mother sexually abused me. That left an equal mark on me. It was very difficult to mend myself/ recover. But I think that if I didn’t experience everything I did as a child, I wouldn’t be the woman that I am today. I have learned that if you want another life in this life, it depends on you alone. I am the only conductor of my life. What I want to do, where I want to be and where I want to end up.
Yanina, academic teacher, Buenos Aires
It's funny that some women here think "If you don't hit me, you don't love me." We need to work together to empower the women and to bring about change.
Lydia, musician and social activist, Niarobi
Since I was in primary school I got the moral education saying men and women should be treated the same. We should be free to choose our spouses. But in reality some of my friends are told by their parents to marry specific persons and they can't say no because they are female.
Gerard, headhunter, Jakarta
It's not just the man who is violent to his wife, the woman is also violent to her child and to her husband (usually verbally). In order to reduce the violence between a man and a woman, you must know what you want, what hurts you and to learn to express that much better and to communicate about it with the ones you love, instead of resorting to physical or verbal abuse.
Ivonne, social entrepreneur and founder Human Culture Foundation, Mendoza
... because that is marriage, because you are together. If I would take the decisions or she would take the decisions, it’s not a marriage. Then we would be entirely on our own, single.
Fabian, caretaker apartment building, Buenos Aires
... I don't want to be stuck in that perspective. Being married and having a family is the highest level of being a woman in Indonesia. If I was a boy I would have the change to get a better education. All the guys in small towns in Indonesia think they are superior and that they have the authority, That's just wrong.
Novita, coordinator sanitation project for Water.org, Jakarta