It was my dream to study agriculture, but that was a men’s career.
       
     
I go out and have new experiences
       
     
Because the girl will be married off the land will not be put in her name.
       
     
Women are suffering.
       
     
 Women are not aware of what they can do
       
     
We women have to change our mind.
       
     
Men resist innovation.
       
     
I never went against him.
       
     
Their husband felt very thankful.
       
     
Men in all situations always want to lead the women.
       
     
I don’t want a slave, nor an owner, I want a partner.
       
     
We shall continue the struggle until all women are free.
       
     
Before, if visitors would come to the village I would run away.
       
     
I think it makes perfect sense to take the decisions together.
       
     
I don’t want to live dependent on someone else.
       
     
During the menstruation it was not possible to change the pads
       
     
Domestic violence is a social disease.
       
     
I decide about the daily expenses, about big things we decide together.
       
     
 They can't say no because they are female.
       
     
The reason he became a good guy is that he was raised by his mother.
       
     
When my business grew and I needed support, my husband stayed home and supported me.
       
     
If men and women would receive a good quality education, they would understand each other well.
       
     
Everyone is expecting you to be average, like other women.
       
     
 I am not happy when he is drunk.
       
     
It was my dream to study agriculture, but that was a men’s career.
       
     
It was my dream to study agriculture, but that was a men’s career.

I fought two years to achieve that, but I didn’t succeed. That was much more difficult for me. But what I couldn’t do then, I am doing now.

Lupe Intriago Mera, president cacao association, Ecuador

I go out and have new experiences
       
     
I go out and have new experiences

The decisions about the work and organisation of the family are always made by the man.

Cecilio Cuchicari Cilliani, guinea pig farmer, Peru

Because the girl will be married off the land will not be put in her name.
       
     
Because the girl will be married off the land will not be put in her name.

But if the family she will be married in is poor, we will definitely help her. We are getting my daughter educated, because we want her to be able to earn a living. If she will marry into a family that is not well off, we will help her.

Meerabai Kamle, farmer & secretary in women’s federation, India

Women are suffering.
       
     
Women are suffering.

Look at my mother who is always fighting for us, she was always trying to get us ahead, she was always with us. My mother has to do it all alone, without help from anybody, because my father is always drinking. He is drinking every day. He is drinking the money my mother has earned the hard way.

Kattya Dimelsa Choque Alizaras, incapacitated mine worker, Bolivia

 Women are not aware of what they can do
       
     
Women are not aware of what they can do

We want to be more than just women who take care of the children and the house. We want to have our space in the coffee production and our voice heard around the world.

Vânia Lucia Pereira da Silva, vice president Coopfam, Brazil.

We women have to change our mind.
       
     
We women have to change our mind.

We were raised traditional, that women have to do everything for the men, but now we should change our mind. The second is we need to change the men. Sometimes to change the minds of the men is easier than to change the women and that they then have to influence the men.

Pham Thanh Tam, Office Assistant Agriterra, Vietnam

Men resist innovation.
       
     
Men resist innovation.

Women are more open to innovation and sustainability.

Jose Tonello (Bepi), retired CEO of cooperative, Ecuador

I never went against him.
       
     
I never went against him.

I just followed and never fought against him. Because I would feel ashamed if the neighbours would know about it. If my family would find out I went against my husband, because I chose him. I wanted to marry him, so I felt responsible.

Herlina br Marmata, Coffee farmer, Sumatra

Their husband felt very thankful.
       
     
Their husband felt very thankful.

The initiative to start MOBI was taken by the women themselves, because they were part of the production but they had no voice in the cooperative and they wanted to participate more in the live of the production of coffee, in the life of their husband, who was a member of the cooperative. They didn’t become members before because their husband didn’t want it, but because of the culture of the region. When they started, their husband felt very thankful to know that the women wanted to take part in the society life and in the cooperative.

Clemilson José Pereira, president Coopfam & coffee producer, Brazil

Men in all situations always want to lead the women.
       
     
Men in all situations always want to lead the women.

The women themselves aren’t brave enough, they need a chance. If they don’t have a chance they just stay quiet. But if they get a chance and understand about their role and how potential they are then they can have a right and make a decision.

Vanntha, founder and managing director Color Silk, Phnom Penh

 

I don’t want a slave, nor an owner, I want a partner.
       
     
I don’t want a slave, nor an owner, I want a partner.

The truth is that living in a place where my father abused my mother both physically and psychologically turned me into hard woman. I didn’t want anyone to hit me, didn’t want anyone to tell me what to do with my money, nor with my life, nor what kind of clothes I should wear or whatever. To do something because someone else is my boss. I belief that right now I have a companion, I don’t feel like his slave, he doesn't feel like my slave.

Yanina, academic teacher, Buenos Aires

 

We shall continue the struggle until all women are free.
       
     
We shall continue the struggle until all women are free.

It's funny that some women here think "If you don't hit me, you don't love me." We need to work together to empower the women and to bring about change.

Lydia, musician and social activist, Niarobi

Before, if visitors would come to the village I would run away.
       
     
Before, if visitors would come to the village I would run away.

Now I can confidently talk to strangers and interact with them, which is a mayor thing for me. I can talk with anybody and I am confident with people.

Pappubai, farmer and treasurer in women’s federation, India


I think it makes perfect sense to take the decisions together.
       
     
I think it makes perfect sense to take the decisions together.

... because that is marriage, because you are together. If I would take the decisions or she would take the decisions, it’s not a marriage. Then we would be entirely on our own, single.

Fabian, caretaker apartment building, Buenos Aires

 

I don’t want to live dependent on someone else.
       
     
I don’t want to live dependent on someone else.

Actually I am independent. And I am waiting to develop myself. I don’t want to live dependent on someone else, because I am afraid that if I get a family that person can’t take care of me. So we have to be able to take care of ourselves first.

Sreypov, English teacher, Phom Penh

During the menstruation it was not possible to change the pads
       
     
During the menstruation it was not possible to change the pads

My husband benefits, but for me it is even more important, because during the menstrual period it is not possible to change the pads in the house and I can now change my pads in the toilet. I even have an incineration facility in the bathroom to burn the used pads.

Buvgneshwari, farm labourer, India

Domestic violence is a social disease.
       
     
Domestic violence is a social disease.

It's not just the man who is violent to his wife, the woman is also violent to her child and to her husband (usually verbally). In order to reduce the violence between a man and a woman, you must know what you want, what hurts you and to learn to express that much better and to communicate about it with the ones you love, instead of resorting to physical or verbal abuse.

Ivonne, social entrepreneur and founder Human Culture Foundation, Mendoza

I decide about the daily expenses, about big things we decide together.
       
     
I decide about the daily expenses, about big things we decide together.

In my family I am equal to my husband. We discuss everything together before we decide.

Tu, basket weaver, Nong Cong (Vietnam)

 They can't say no because they are female.
       
     
They can't say no because they are female.

Since I was in primary school I got the moral education saying men and women should be treated the same. We should be free to choose our spouses. But in reality some of my friends are told by their parents to marry specific persons and they can't say no because they are female.

Gerard, headhunter, Jakarta

The reason he became a good guy is that he was raised by his mother.
       
     
The reason he became a good guy is that he was raised by his mother.

When Srem tells us she has a good husband, her mother-in-law explains why he is such a good man: "Before he only lived with me. He never knew his father, because his father was killed during the Red Khmer regime. That is the reason that he has become a good guy who respects his mother and his wife."

Srem, weaver of silk and cotton fabric, Trapieng Sdok villae (Cambodia).

 

When my business grew and I needed support, my husband stayed home and supported me.
       
     
When my business grew and I needed support, my husband stayed home and supported me.

When I started to buy and resell seafood my husband still went fishing. When my business grew and I needed support, my husband stayed home and supported me. Now I am owner of the business and my husband is doing the hard work.

Dau, owner of clean water and ice business, Hoang Hoa (Vietnam)

If men and women would receive a good quality education, they would understand each other well.
       
     
If men and women would receive a good quality education, they would understand each other well.

The problem of the family in Cambodia is that they have no education and they don’t understand each other. Sometimes the men just don’t care about the family, go away and have a party. But if they would have education and quality of thinking, that would change much in the family.

Phalleng, Social Performance manager LOLC microfinance, Phnom Penh 

 

Everyone is expecting you to be average, like other women.
       
     
Everyone is expecting you to be average, like other women.

... I don't want to be stuck in that perspective. Being married and having a family is the highest level of being a woman in Indonesia. If I was a boy I would have the change to get a better education. All the guys in small towns in Indonesia think they are superior and that they have the authority, That's just wrong.

Novita, coordinator sanitation project for Water.org, Jakarta

 I am not happy when he is drunk.
       
     
I am not happy when he is drunk.

What would make me most happy is that my husband stays with me at home, even if he would have a party or drink with some friends that’s okay, but that he doesn’t go to Phnom Penh and gets drunk, stuff like that.

Vannary, farmer in the outskirts of Phnom Penh