I fought two years to achieve that, but I didn’t succeed. That was much more difficult for me. But what I couldn’t do then, I am doing now.
Lupe Intriago Mera, president cacao association, Ecuador
The decisions about the work and organisation of the family are always made by the man.
Cecilio Cuchicari Cilliani, guinea pig farmer, Peru
We want to be more than just women who take care of the children and the house. We want to have our space in the coffee production and our voice heard around the world.
Vânia Lucia Pereira da Silva, vice president Coopfam, Brazil.
I just followed and never fought against him. Because I would feel ashamed if the neighbours would know about it. If my family would find out I went against my husband, because I chose him. I wanted to marry him, so I felt responsible.
Herlina br Marmata, Coffee farmer, Sumatra
The women themselves aren’t brave enough, they need a chance. If they don’t have a chance they just stay quiet. But if they get a chance and understand about their role and how potential they are then they can have a right and make a decision.
Vanntha, founder and managing director Color Silk, Phnom Penh
The truth is that living in a place where my father abused my mother both physically and psychologically turned me into hard woman. I didn’t want anyone to hit me, didn’t want anyone to tell me what to do with my money, nor with my life, nor what kind of clothes I should wear or whatever. To do something because someone else is my boss. I belief that right now I have a companion, I don’t feel like his slave, he doesn't feel like my slave.
Yanina, academic teacher, Buenos Aires
It's funny that some women here think "If you don't hit me, you don't love me." We need to work together to empower the women and to bring about change.
Lydia, musician and social activist, Niarobi
... because that is marriage, because you are together. If I would take the decisions or she would take the decisions, it’s not a marriage. Then we would be entirely on our own, single.
Fabian, caretaker apartment building, Buenos Aires
Actually I am independent. And I am waiting to develop myself. I don’t want to live dependent on someone else, because I am afraid that if I get a family that person can’t take care of me. So we have to be able to take care of ourselves first.
Sreypov, English teacher, Phom Penh
It's not just the man who is violent to his wife, the woman is also violent to her child and to her husband (usually verbally). In order to reduce the violence between a man and a woman, you must know what you want, what hurts you and to learn to express that much better and to communicate about it with the ones you love, instead of resorting to physical or verbal abuse.
Ivonne, social entrepreneur and founder Human Culture Foundation, Mendoza
In my family I am equal to my husband. We discuss everything together before we decide.
Tu, basket weaver, Nong Cong (Vietnam)
Since I was in primary school I got the moral education saying men and women should be treated the same. We should be free to choose our spouses. But in reality some of my friends are told by their parents to marry specific persons and they can't say no because they are female.
Gerard, headhunter, Jakarta
When Srem tells us she has a good husband, her mother-in-law explains why he is such a good man: "Before he only lived with me. He never knew his father, because his father was killed during the Red Khmer regime. That is the reason that he has become a good guy who respects his mother and his wife."
Srem, weaver of silk and cotton fabric, Trapieng Sdok villae (Cambodia).
When I started to buy and resell seafood my husband still went fishing. When my business grew and I needed support, my husband stayed home and supported me. Now I am owner of the business and my husband is doing the hard work.
Dau, owner of clean water and ice business, Hoang Hoa (Vietnam)
The problem of the family in Cambodia is that they have no education and they don’t understand each other. Sometimes the men just don’t care about the family, go away and have a party. But if they would have education and quality of thinking, that would change much in the family.
Phalleng, Social Performance manager LOLC microfinance, Phnom Penh
... I don't want to be stuck in that perspective. Being married and having a family is the highest level of being a woman in Indonesia. If I was a boy I would have the change to get a better education. All the guys in small towns in Indonesia think they are superior and that they have the authority, That's just wrong.
Novita, coordinator sanitation project for Water.org, Jakarta
What would make me most happy is that my husband stays with me at home, even if he would have a party or drink with some friends that’s okay, but that he doesn’t go to Phnom Penh and gets drunk, stuff like that.
Vannary, farmer in the outskirts of Phnom Penh